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How To Shop Estate Sales.

Like to look for rare treasures? Want a new hobby that gets you out of the house and lets you make friends with other boomers, see the insides of some historic homes, and maybe happen upon that unusual find?

Then you might be interested in learning the art of estate sales.

We boomers love nostalgia.  We lived through some fascinating trends…LPs, Time/Life books, Slinky, percolators, rotary phones, sewing machines, bean bag chairs….

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For some, estate sales are  an addiction, for others, just a way to pass the time. I confess occasionally I enjoy the whole process though I am a novice. Which is why I recently interviewed a boomer couple who are true estate sale sharks…and they have the purchases to prove it.

Over the years, they’ve found stunning antique cabinets and other large pieces of furniture. Valuable collectibles like Lladro, Hummel and Beatrix Potter. Old books and posters. Classic records, vintage toys and more. In some cases, for amazingly low prices.  (I think boomers appreciate bargains more than anybody!)

And along the way, they’ve come to know the “regulars”…people they see in line at many estate sales. It’s a close-knit society. Members of this society often will cooperate with one another because after a while, you know who’s looking for what and they know what you’re looking for.

But how do you go about successfully sniffing out and cruising an estate sale? Here are some tips from my experts:

  •  Sign up on websites like estatesales.net, estatesales.org and gslar.com.  You can receive emails that will list sales in your area, often with photos of items. Plus, on gsalr.com, you can enter key words that might come up in descriptions of items for sale in a particular house. That can really narrow your search.
  • Decide which sale you are most interested in and make that your first stop. Even if you don’t sign up to receive emails, you can still visit websites like estatesales.net, estatesales.org and gsalr.com the night before a sale to check out the locations of sales, and look at photos of items.
  • Get there early. At least an hour early if you really want something and you think others might also be interested. You’ll have to stand in line, but most likely you can pass the time talking to others there. Dress for the weather.
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  • See if anyone is standing outside that represents the sale. If so, ask where you desired item is. For example, is the antique desk in the master bedroom? Upstairs? Knowing where it is before the door opens can be a major advantage.
  • Bring cash just in case. Some sales take credit cards and checks. Some are cash only. Don’t be disappointed.
  • Bring a big or box if you are anticipating picking up something fragile.
  • If you do see something you think you might want, go ahead and pick it up while you decide. You can always put it back after you’ve walked around the house. But if someone else gets it, you’re out of luck.
  •  Pricing: most dealers will not come down on the price the first day. You can ask, and if it’s something that they think won’t sell quickly, they might make a deal, especially if you’re already buying other items. But in most cases, it’s the second or third day when you get the deals.

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Why go to estate sales if you’re really not looking for anything?

One reason is sometimes the sale is in a beautiful old home in a beautiful neighborhood, and it’s interesting to see the architecture and furnishings. Another reason is sometimes it’s just fun to see what you might find…a memory from the past like an old record, toy or cooking tool you haven’t seen in years.  Plus if you have grandchildren, you often can find children’s clothing and toys in great condition for a very low price.  Same thing with gardening tools, golfing items, and kitchen utensils.

My finds have been everything from an ornate handheld fan (my church doesn’t have air conditioning) to perfectly good garden pots for two dollars to an original Russell Wright pitcher that matches a set I inherited from my mother. In some ways, it’s bittersweet to look at items that were once possessions of another person…you wonder what happened to them, and you wonder if the same thing will happen to your stuff. But then I think most of the people who frequent estate sales really treasure what they find, so at least the items are getting a good home.

And finally, another great benefit of going to estate sales: you can go to breakfast afterwards!

 

 “I’m the oldest antique in town.”

                         Norman Rockwell

 

 

 

 

Health benefits of Tai Chi.

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(This is the second of a 2-part series on the benefits of Tai chi for anyone over 50.  In Part 1, you heard why Tai chi is the perfect lifelong activity from Certified Tai Chi Instructor  Tim Murphy. Today’s post highlights specific health benefits, and how to get started in Tai chi.)

Tai chi stretches your body, and your organs. It helps align the ligaments that in turn keep your bones aligned properly so you have more support. It reduces pain and increases flexibility. Increasing the qi flow through the body opens up the channels for increased energy and strength.

Emotional and Mental Benefits: Connecting with the qi.

What is qi? One definition is the circulating life energy that in Chinese philosophy is thought to be inherent in all things…an uninterrupted flow is said to be essential for good health. This is where Tai chi comes in: it unlocks the qi.

But what does it mean to “feel” the qi? I can only answer for myself. There are times during a Tai chi movement when I can feel what I will describe as an energy field, usually warm, and very soothing. It doesn’t always happen. Some people never feel it. But many experienced practitioners say that even if you don’t feel the qi, you still are absorbing the benefits of the process.

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For Certified Tai Chi Instructor Tim Murphy, it’s about awareness.

 “Tai chi has made me much more aware of the energy flowing through my body,” says Tim. “It’s proven that we have electrical fields flowing through our bodies, and Tai chi has helped me understand what that means. It’s an awareness of qi; a phenomenon I can get in touch with.

“Tai chi also has helped me become centered. So many of the experiences you have in Tai chi are hard to describe…the feeling you have after you’ve been playing Tai chi for an hour or so. You may be tired, but another part of you is revitalized. And it has a calming effect. Sometimes just that slowing down is so important. It’s so typical of our world and how we work, that we go nonstop and never really relax.

 “With Tai chi, you are taking a period of time for yourself to slow down, which has many positive effects on your body. I’ve had people come into the first Tai chi class and walk out after a few minutes, because there is something inherent in them that prevents them from slowing down. Many Type A people have trouble moving that slow. But I ask: if it’s that hard for you to slow down, maybe this is something that might really benefit you!”

 For many people, the combination of relaxation and concentration doesn’t make sense. I get that, but I can tell you it’s what really drew me in…I knew it would be good for my 50+ brain!

“You can be mentally focused and relaxed,” says Tim. “You’re just focusing on the relaxation.”

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Physical benefits: what research is finding.

  • Blood pressure. Studies have recorded positive benefits for participants dealing with high blood pressure and other cardiovascular conditions. Additionally, research has found Tai chi can improve levels of cholesterol, triglycerides, insulin and C-reactive protein in people at high risk for heart disease.
  •  Immune system. Tai chi decreases the release of catecholamine, a neurotransmitter that dampens the immune system. In one study, three sessions a week for four months enhanced immune cell function by 45% in adults with shingles.
  •  Arthritis. If you suffer from osteoarthritis, you’ll appreciate that Tai chi can help you have less pain and stiffness. I can speak from experience on this: it does reduce pain, even in the hands. The Tai Chi for Arthritis Program developed by Dr. Paul Lam is based on the Sun style Tai chi which helps improve muscular strength, flexibility and fitness.   http://taichiforhealthinstitute.org/how-does-tai-chi-for-arthritis-work/
  •  Balance. Tai chi may improve sensitivity to nerve signals in ankles and knees, which can prevent falls. Practicing Tai chi also has been found to reduce the fear and thus the risk of falling among older adults, even in their 80s and 90s.
  • Osteoporosis. Tai chi may slow bone loss in postmenopausal women and even build bone density.
  • Diabetes. Because movement and exercise are so important in the control of diabetes, Tai chi has been found to be an excellent option for those with diabetes needing to reduce stress, relax, and improve their circulation.
  •  Fibromyalgia. A New England Journal of Medicine study showed that Tai chi reduced pain and fatigue and improved the participants’ ability to move, function physically, and sleep.
  • Parkinson’s disease. Participants in one research study suffering from mild to moderately server Parkinson’s demonstrated improved balance, walking ability and overall well-being after 20 Tai chi sessions.
  • Recovery from stroke, injury, illness. Because Tai chi can help improve strength, flexibility, aerobic endurance and also reduce stress and anxiety, it has proven to be an effective method for recovery from stroke and other trauma.

There is more….much more. But it’s obvious that this is more than a few stretches and poses. This is a holistic approach to lifelong well-being.

Check it out for yourself. Visit the Tai Chi for Health website and read a few of Dr. Paul Lam’s articles. Read more from Harvard Medical School. Ask anyone you know who is a student of Tai chi.

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So how do you get started? Get moving.

Most importantly, start moving. “That’s the key,” says Tim. “Whether you join a class, watch a DVD, or find a video online, just start moving. As you start to delve deeper in the Tai chi forms, you will want to do them correctly, which means finding someone who can guide you. There is something about the human connection between a student and a teacher or mentor that can facilitate your learning.”

Step One: Get moving.

Step Two: Find a class, a DVD, a video or other resource.

Step Three: Develop a relationship with someone who can guide you and answer your questions as you progress, so you can get the most out of what you are doing.

I vouch for locating a certified instructor and a class where you can learn with others, practice what you know, and continue to peel the layers off the Tai chi “onion.”

I predict you’ll start feeling the benefits soon…and Tai chi will be part of your lifelong journey of health.

 

“Peace in ourselves, peace in the world. “

                     Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Learn Tai chi for lifelong fitness.

(First of a 2-part series on the benefits of Tai chi for anyone 50 and better who wants a lifelong physical activity with important health advantages.)

Winter’s chill makes it easy to want to just curl up in a quilt with a cup of something warm and sit by a fire…throw in a cat for lap warmth and a dog to snuggle by your feet and you have a scene that’s hard to resist. Problem is, the more you sit, the stiffer you get, the stiffer you get, the more you sit. And while weather may lull you into sitting more the next few months, why not spend some of that time committing yourself to trying something new—an activity that will get you moving, your blood flowing and work your muscles and bones in a safe and gentle manner?

An activity new you can do now, or begin in  2015, and continue for the rest of your life.

For many of us over 50, it’s not practical or even desirable to consider high impact activities. Our joints just aren’t what they used to be. We don’t want to jump up and down on steps, run around a track, row an imaginary boat or climb stairs for an hour. But we want to feel good, and we want to extend our longevity.  

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Suggestion: Tai chi.

Tai chi has been called both meditation in motion and medication in motion.   It’s an ancient Chinese martial art that’s also a holistic approach to mental and physical health and well being. There are many styles and forms of Tai chi, all focused on enabling the “qi” or life force to flow smoothly throughout the body.   More than 300 million people worldwide practice—or as practitioners say—“play”—Tai chi.

Tai chi’s benefits range from greater flexibility and balance to improved bone density, a stronger immune system and lower blood pressure. (More specifics on benefits later.)

Most importantly, Tai Chi is something you can start at any age and keep doing for life.

Recently I had the privilege of interviewing Tai chi instructor Tim Murphy, who introduced me to Tai chi a few years ago. (I had never done anything like Tai chi before, and was well past 50.) Tim is a certified Tai chi Instructor For Energy, a certified Tai chi Instructor for Arthritis, and a certified Tai chi Instructor for the American Association of Aerobics Instructors. He has taught Tai chi for more than 20 years. He also is a Master Scuba Diver Trainer PADI (25 years experience), a Level 2 Ski instructor PSIA (10 years) and is certified to teach kickboxing for NAPMA and Yoga for AAAI.

Tim’s first experience with Tai chi was using it as a warm-up for a Karate class. He appreciated the softness of Tai chi in contrast to the more rigid style of the class he was participating in. Years later, he and his brother became more interested in Tai chi for the same reason many boomers do…to find a physical activity they could do for life.

“I knew I wouldn’t be able to continue to do a lot of the contact sports I had always done, like boxing and football,” said Tim. “My brother and I both wanted something we could do for the rest of our lives, regardless of age or health issues.” His interest in Tai chi has not faded over the past 20+ years he has been teaching.

“Tai Chi is like an onion, with many layers. The first movement you learn is the first layer. As you get deeper and deeper into the form, the onion principle just keeps going…you are still peeling layers off the onion years later.”

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Tai chi is truly for everyone, and it’s especially beneficial to baby boomers and those with even more years to their credit.

“The skeleton responds to stresses. If you are sedentary, your bones are not being stressed and your muscles are not being used. But the human body is a wonderful thing. When you start to work in any kind of exercise, you body responds to the effort and increases its level of stasis, or fitness. So your level of fitness is directly related to your level of activity. If your activity level is low, your level of stasis is low because you are not moving.

“Become active again, and your body responds…as though it’s asking, “Why are you walking now? You haven’t walked in years!” This begins to raise your level of fitness. As we get older, it’s even more important. Consider degenerative diseases like osteoporosis and arthritis. We need activities that support and boost our level of stasis, without having a high level of impact  that would be harmful to our joints. If you run a mile, and it hurts, you don’t run anymore. But do something that does not hurt, but is a weight-bearing exercise…and your skeleton responds positively. This is critical as we age.

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“Our bodies don’t wither away because we get older. Our bodies wither away because we stop using them. Tai Chi is a weight-bearing activity that stimulates your skeleton but does not impact your joints like harder exercise.”

And what about the person who’s recovering from an accident, stroke, or injury? Or a bed-bound or wheelchair-bound individual? Can Tai chi even be possible?

Yes, says Tim emphatically. He should know, as he’s had students of all ages who face these challenges.

“One of my students was a 92-year-old woman who had fallen and broken her femur, and was now using a walker. When she returned to our class, I had everyone sit in chair, and we did the entire form seated. We were still able to do the arm movements, the body turns, and get the good benefits of the postures.

“I think many times we tend to be self-limiting, and think we can’t do something. People will tell you can’t do that because you’re getting older. If you accept that, it becomes your limitation. But you must challenge that. How many times do we see people walk again after an injury—and they had been told that wasn’t even possible?”

Tai chi is graceful, fascinating, relaxing and a lot of fun!

I’ve said before how much I enjoy playing Tai chi. Just the names of a few of the postures—part the wild horse’s mane, white crane spreads its wings, grasp the peacock’s tail—are enticing enough to compel me to want to do each move with as much fluidity and purpose as I can. As Tim has said before, it’s hard to describe how you feel after doing Tai chi for an hour: exhilarated; yet peaceful; tired yet filled with a new energy. It’s helped me in many ways. I love it.

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  • Tai chi is for every age.
  • Standing, or seated, you can do some form or movement.
  • You can play Tai chi alone or with a group, and just about anywhere—on the beach, in your hotel room, at the garden, in your office, on a mountain trail.
  • You don’t need any special equipment or clothing. Be comfortable.
  • You can keep progressing and improving your skills.
  • There are many movements and many forms.
  • Feeling the “qi” is a very powerful experience!
  • Tai chi has multiple benefits for better health.

Coming up in my next post, I’ll share some scientifically proven (and somewhat amazing) health benefits of this ancient art, talk about “Qi”…what is it, what does it feel like, and how you can connect with it, plus share Tim’s advice for how to get started.  Hope you’ll check back in!

 

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old.  We grow old because we stop playing.”

                               George Bernard Shaw

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Give Your Time This Season.

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The season of giving is upon us, and with it, many opportunities to be overwhelmed, depressed, and caught in countless traffic jams. As we get older it’s a little easier to understand Ebenezer Scrooge’s mood with all the frenzy that is happening around us. Or if we’re alone or far from family, it can feel very lonely.

A surefire way to turn this around: help someone. Give your time, your talent, and your wisdom to make a difference in someone else’s life.

It really isn’t that hard to do and it could be the greatest gift you ever give—or receive.

But what can I do, you say? You’re retired, it’s been years since you’ve been in the workplace, and you really don’t think you have any skills anyone can use.

Say that to Tom Frazier, director of Blues City Thrift in Memphis, Tennessee, and he’ll tell you otherwise. Just a few years ago, Tom’s days were filled with hard drives, software upgrades, and his customers who were often in frantic need of his company’s computer maintenance genius. (I was one of them.)

Then after moving on from that business and taking a few months off, Tom found himself without a next step—and he didn’t like it.

“My mantra for years has been that retirement is not necessarily a good thing, but change is,” says Tom. “ I’ve always felt change is as good as a vacation. I realized that I had forgotten that—so I made some changes.” This included volunteering to pick up and drive Veterans needing to visit the local Veterans Hospital. He also volunteered with an urban farmers market in Binghampton, a Memphis neighborhood.

But then along came an opportunity that Tom didn’t expect, but which gave him an opportunity to use his managerial skills and his desire to be of service to others—creating a nice, neat, quality thrift store where the proceeds go to help other Memphis charities.

In other words, a business that makes money to give to charities…hence the store’s tagline, “Thrifty  Goods for a Greater Good.”

Tom started working with Blues City Thrift before it even had a location…as a part-time employee driving a large truck to pick up donated items and deliver them to donated warehouse space. “That was a humbling experience for me,” he says. Fast-forward to today’s Blues City Thrift…almost 13,000 clean and well-arranged square feet holding a range of items for sale. The store employs a few individuals who have had trouble finding work elsewhere, and also has several volunteers.

“I really enjoy coming into contact with many people I might never have met, people who are definitely struggling or just want to make their dollars stretch more. Maybe they need a $10 suit for an interview. Or they’d like their house to look nicer but they can’t afford a big department store. Blues City Thrift is nice, neat, well-lit and organized…and you can still get a pair of $2.99 jeans.”

Tom isn’t new to helping others. His past includes serving as a missionary on a voyage bringing books to schools in over 40 underdeveloped countries in Africa and Asia. He still finds being of service uplifting and energizing.

“At Blues City Thrift, we are sometimes offered items that we can’t accept, because our standards are too high. In those cases, we give dozens of bags of items to ministries all over town who serve the homeless. We recycle everything. The work is challenging and never boring…I enjoy it so much I hate to take a day off!”

For a person who is still employed full-time, donating several hours a week to a charity or organization may not be possible. But like Tom says, if someone is feeling left out, just sitting at home all day, watching television, surfing the web, trying to figure out what to do with empty hours…there are so many agencies and charities that need a person’s time and talent.

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Everyone has a skill. That’s what we boomers are known for!

Maybe you know bookkeeping. How to arrange a shelf. You might excel at greeting people with a smile. Stacking a box or two. Pouring cups of coffee. Doing inventory. Helping someone get to the doctor. Several hours a week, a few hours on Saturday, whatever your schedule allows. As Tom says, it’s so important and humanizing to lend a hand to people who are having a hard time at the moment…and anybody can do it.

Don’t think you are too old, or too out of touch, or too set in your ways. I think nothing energizes us like getting out of ourselves and getting into helping another.

And research tells us helping others is good for us.

Studies have linked helping others to a decreased mortality risk, especially when there is a social connection involved. It begins a “cycle” of giving that continues in you. Generosity is a key factor in a happy marriage. Simply put, helping others feels good…and it’s good for your health.

“I kind of backed into this opportunity,” says Tom. “I had never even been in a thrift store, and now I love what I am doing. My wife, Sandra, is working here as well, so we’re together every day. In fact, we’re more in love than ever.” Tom, who is turning 64 this month, also recently produced a CD of songs he’s been writing since the 1970s.   “Funny what you can still do!”

So give it a thought. Tis’ the season to give. Maybe there’s a part of you that would make a tremendous gift for someone else. Maybe in 2015 you decide you’re going to spend a few hours outside your comfort zone making a difference. Just imagine what you could receive!

 

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a second moment before starting to improve the world.”

                       Anne  Frank

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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